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Does equal mean PhD degrees only date PhDs? Muslims only date muslims? I don't know. You have to define what equal is to you. Other people love to tell you when you "can do better." Tell them jokers to hush. Their view of your sitch is different cuz they aren't looking with the same angle you have. Sometimes that's a good thing, but sometimes....people will have something to say regardless.
I told my sister the other day that I saw a cute security guard, but I just could not date no flashlight cop and take him seriously. She didn't like that at all!
"What's wrong with him? You don't know, he might..." Yall know the rest. What's wrong with him is it's time for me to step up. Not step back. Or step laterally.I also told her of another young man who I thought was FINE! But he...let's just say his "job" is not one that gives you a W-2 come tax time. He was attractive, but I said to myself, as a young woman with a bachelor of science degree, what I look like running with the rats? I'm not finna get Fanchon Stinger-ed out here. (look it up y'all....)
Now, for one reason or another I am known for being attracted to the riff raff. Yes, y'all; it's true. At school the perception is I like those race car jacket-wearing boys with the dreads and golds.....(that's only half true.) But now if I try to step it up and do sumthing different, then I'm being stuck up and think I'm too good....
TIGER WOODS CAN MARRY A DAMN NANNY....but let me try sum shit like that....
My belief is that if I am as successful and self-sufficient as I plan to be, at that point the man's status is irrelevant. I'm going to be at a level where there is nothing he could offer me financially, so if he works for the FBI or for Foot Locker, there's nothing he can buy me that I can't buy myself. At that point, the intangibles take precedence. How does he make me feel? If the blue-collar brother makes me dinner, runs my bath water, is reliable, faithful, spiritual, intelligent, fun-loving and has good character while million-dollar man is not, is it still lowering my standards if I pick Guy #1?
You think while you're young you can waste time and have fun and date whomever cuz it's "just a date." Well, that one date turns into 2 and and 2 turns into sleepovers and before you know it you're in love....or pregnant...so make every choice count.
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Miss D: I don't believe that there is a such thing as being equally yoked by the standards that society sets for us. For example, when they say opposites attract, that really means that we may have somethings that different, but on another level we have things that are more fitted for our level in life, our ambition in life, our status in life, and our perception of life and experiences. For example, I have Masters Degree in Criminal Justice and am in my second year of my Ph.D. program in Human Services. I am not even remotely attracted to an educated man and don't prefer the company of those who are educated because I just have a perception of the educated as fitting into a certain criteria that I think is mostly fake. I know I am educated but I don't hold that to a high standard because I am who I am without the degree. I place more emphasis on my needs and how a person can fit into that and how I can fit into their needs and desires. This is not limited to an intimate relationship, but friendships, co-workers, family, etc. So being equally yoked to me is who complements me, and adds on to my life, not who shares my educational, career, financial or social status in life.
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