Posts
Why are older men attractive?
Because younger dudes' maturity level is still evolving. The young black man is in high demand and he knows it, so he's pompous for little good reason. He can be college-educated, he can be street corner-certified....but he's the hotness just because women of all races and levels blow him up. He can have his first little apartment, or be at home with mama. A lot of ladies out here want sum D that bad y'all....So the guys treat you grimey because you are replaceable. Period.
Meanwhile, older dudes have (possibly) been there, done that, learned things the hard way and grown up. They are confident in who they are, their achievements, abilities, etc. They carry themselves differently and give you this sense that, they got you. (Maybe) They can work a room, make everyone feel welcome, show you new things, whatever.
But look here: If you are 42, with a great job, nice house, nice car, sum stocks and bonds, 401K, sum rental properties and (probably sum kids my age) then what does a 21-year old girl have to offer?
She's in a dorm, you own your own business; What shall we discuss over dinner: my tough homework assignment?
Some women have no problem with a man who wines and dines, gives and buys. To me, accepting gifts and things gives me a sense of obligation. (Many women, you will find, do not have this problem.) But it's demoralizing to me as a competent individual and it gives him an inflated sense of power.
I like to feel like I am contributing something and pulling my own weight. I want to feel like I am bringing something to the table.
So no, you won't catch me with a 40-year old. If you got a 20-year head start on life and we are still on the same level, then that's a sad reflection on you, brotha.
There are too many single middle-aged women out here who are beautiful, successful and have a lot to offer for these men to be chasing little girls (relatively speaking). When I see a single 50-yr-old man, I wonder what's wrong with him - he must have been doin sumthin wrong because women his age have deemed him unacceptable....or rather, he is just taking the easy way out and overlooking his counterparts in favor of what looks like an easy ride.
It is tricking if you got it....Unless you are Oprah.
1 comment:
Hi Miss D: It's Surabi aka anonymous again. I have always loved older men. For me it was what they represented to me in my eyes. I viewed older men as I viewed my father who was very family responsible in the sense of money, but was lacking in the emotions department. He was a hard worker and loved his family in spite of being abandoned by his mother and father at 13 years old. They represent maturity and responsibility as well as having a sense of knowing how to put their priorities in perspective. I still love older men and at the age of 42, though I prefer someone at least 35-60. So as I got older, I still like a mature man, but stop the line at 35 but not over 60. But a word about younger guys, not all of them are immature. A lot of them are, but some of them a jewel to behold.
Post a Comment