Sorry, Nice Guys....

Yes, you DO finish last.
...and I'm one of the girls who has you thinking about going bad.
I mean,ladies, we all say we want a nice guy. We list desirable traits such as: sweet, smart, spiritual, employed, etc....But when it physically walks up and says hello, it's just not as interesting as it sounded.
So I'm sorry. I've been approached by so many guys who were so "nice"....I almost felt bad about not giving them half a chance.

I guess that's why they call it chemistry. We do actually want you to possess all those things, just in the right amounts. The formula has to be just right.
Can I have:
nice...but not too agreeable?
kind...but not soft?
intelligent...but not in constant neo-soul mode, hittin me with yo deep prison philosophies?
Spiritual...but not condemning or judgmental? (There's that word again: see post "Non-Church Folk Love to Tell Church Folk How to Act")
Polite....not mousy?
Compliments...but not ass kissing?
Affectionate...not smothereing?
Interested...not aggressive and desperate?

Sooo yeah, I guess I need you to be an alchemist. They call it chemistry cuz you gotta have the right combination, baby!

This One's For You

I am
the general - four stars
A perfect gem - no flaws
Tight ass lyric, for 16 sick bars
One bat of my eyelash took your breath away
Play action! You went for the fake
Sumthin like a running back, how I gave you the shake
Threw you a half-smile from over my shoulder
You text your girl a lie, Don't think tonite you'll make it over
The spark in my eye led you over to the bar
Told me don't take another step, my heel mite land on your heart
So cheesy it was cute, I gave you a pass
Guard is always up, but you got me to laugh

Then I looked in your face, and you look 35,
In some damn Ed Hardy with those blinding designs
Trynna stunt and ball with your old, greasy game
I know other, gullible girls were impressed by your hood fame
But I'ma make up a name and throw off a digit
As you adjust your bulge, so sure you gon get it
Proud of urself - you just know you done did it!
You strolled over here, all full of confidence,
And I said, "Wait! Didn't I see you at the Parent Teacher Conference?"

My People, Don't Do THIS

This is the fall-out from a news conference after a football game last Sunday where a black reporter asked a very controversial/combative question of the head coach. Disrespectful in fact.

The title may sound accusatory, but it's not...I understand all about positioning yourself for the next step. But my people, when you do stuff like this, you make it hard for the rest of us. Shouldn't be like that, but it is...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbQm8lG7vk8

Window Shopping

Honestly, when you watch shows like "My Super Sweet 16," "The Real Housewives of Orange County," and other shows that celebrate opulence, it doesn't make you jealous a little bit?
OR it doesn't give you the idea that they're living the "good life"...thereby telling you if you're not balling/looking like them, then you AREN'T living a"good life."
When you see "Flavor of Love" or "Rock of Love" or "The Girls Next Door," do they not tell you that's how you must look to be attractive to a rich, famous man? Tell me the truth: aren't we all being perpetually fed the same cookie cutter image of what life should look like? what you should look like? what you should wear?
Show me some more stuff like "house of payne" - two heavyset people happy with each other and their blue collar jobs.
Show me some more stuff like BET's "Brothers to Brutha" - 5 kids with two different mamas, substance abuse issues and illegitimate children...but they got each otha and they're reaching for their dreams!
Wait a minute- y'all know I went too far with that, complimenting BET lol...but I'ma have more on that Brutha show later...

Recession My Azz

The NFL announced yesterday that it will be laying off 10 percent of its workers in ANTICIPATION of a downturn in sponsorship and ticket sales because of the current economic climate.
They acknowledge this season went well - but they are still firing people IN CASE next season does not....Well, I would hate to be fired for an event that hasn't even taken place yet, but the NBA, MLB and NASCAR have already laid people off, and media conglomerate Viacom is getting ready to do the same.
I cannot believe this is happeneing, considering the role of sports and entertainment in times like these. When times are hard, vehicles of escapism rise in popularity, usually. No, people may not have $90 for a ticket to a game and gas money to get to the venue, but they'll buy a beer and watch it on TV, which means you should be able to sell advertising space, right? So HOW are these industries suffering?
Keep in mind, these are industries I want to get into. I've gotten responses back like, "We have decided not to hire for this position," or "This job opening is suspended indefinitely."
The job market is tough...I hear it every day...but "The soul of the sluggard desireth and hath not: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat."
SOMEBODY gets to stay when everyone else is getting sent home...SOMEBODY is still getting hired somewhere to do a job they love....
SO WHY CAN'T IT BE US????