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This has been, like, a motif for me the past few months. (take it back to high school lit, y'all)People from all walks of life have dropped this line to me in someway. It must be for a reason.
Most people say I mess with thugs. This is a topic I will thoroughly address later. However, I will say that I just prefer to mess with the real. It's that simple. (I have been faked out though...and very rarely, real dudes have bitch azz-moments.)
How many of you have met a real man? I'm talkin bout a grown man. A beautiful, black man. Someone who has been there, done that and knows how to handle himself. Someone so comfortable in his skin that he can just "do him" regardless of who's around. - Some women mistake this friendly, warm type of man for trying to holla at them. That's not it, mama. He so busy loving life that he wasn't even checking you like that. You just crossed his path and he knew how to brighten your day....you felt the sexiness that is found at the intersection of maturity and confidence.
I'm talking about a grown man, y'all. When you're around him, you have no worries. He got you. He will tell you when you looking good and when you need to tighten up. And HIS sense of freedom gives you permission to be YOU.
I'm talking about a man, y'all. I don't understand these lesbians. The way a BLACK MAN makes you feel...you can't get that anywhere else.
I think guys don't get there until they are about 40 years old....after they've done a lot of living (read: He's been AROUND....)But that's alright. By the time he get to you that means he's done with the bullshit and he's going to keep it REAL...
and if you know me, do not try to guess who I'm referring to, OK? - this could be a conglomeration of real men I'm speaking on.
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Damn, it's like you wrote this entire piece (with the exception of the whole 40 thing) about me. how sweet
Hey there!
I have been driving through the blogosphere tonight and thought I'd stop by and holla!!
I understand what you mean about a REAL MAN but I don't think that a true-to-who-he-is man has to come in a "thug" package. He can come in many types of packages.
Many women define a "real man" differently though...
I think that a woman who is authentic in who SHE is will most likely attract someone who is genuine... not always but a lot of the time... because people are drawn to those who have qualities that they find important...
Thanks for this post and please feel invited to stop by my blog and drop some knowledge on all of the ladies that visit my blog! You don't have to agree with the post to participate...everyone is welcome to share her own experiences and the entire house has an atmosphere of respect... come on by!
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Thank you for commenting! You remindde me of something I heard before: What you are you will attract.
So....maybe we should look at the type of people we seem to attract and ask what internal qualities they actually are reflections of.
People like to blame Bobby for the come-down of Whitney Houston...I think he was just someone who let her be her real self...
And for those men I described who date the type of women they do, maybe I should just accept that they have attracted what they truly are...
DevaDonna: I love this post, but sadly I have to report that I have never met a real man nor have I ever been in love. I have been in lust so many times, but never love. i have given up on ever meeting a real man or being in love with one. I have heard about women who are so messed up, but they met a real man and he changed their life. For example, Joyce Meyer's husband, Dave told God he wanted a woman who wasn't all together because it would be his showing God that he would honor him in not only his life, but his marriage as well. That is the type of man I would love to meet someone who knows that if you want a castle, it is better to build it yourself instead of finding one to fit your style. Great posting as always.
I wanted to comment on the thug part, that is my thing. I love old gangsters because they are not into that crazy life they used to be into. They are still tough, but they use their sense now and just be themselves. I prayed that God would send me a OG who is about 40-60 years old and who just wants to have a companion to share his life with. I am not a gangster, as a matter of fact, I am working on my Ph.D. in Human Services with a specialization in Criminal Justice. But that is who I am attracted to. I love your posting.
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