For all you liberated women who own and embrace your sexuality, I applaud you.
All I hear these days is how men want a woman to take charge and initiate things sometimes. "If you don't have an orgasm, it's your fault," these liberated women say. I suppose the popularity of black smut - I mean, erotica - has encouraged this movement. ESSENCE has a monthly sex & intimacy section, and Zane even has her own our series on Cinemax to teach women to get the love/romance/sex they deserve.
But bruthas, if you're looking for me to chase you down with my whip and whipped cream and hop on top with my handcuffs, I'm sorry to disappoint, but it ain't gonna happen! When I stick my toe in the water, there's this littttle thing called religion that holds me back.
For sum ppl, the taboo part of a thing is half the fun - OK, that's fine if it's something like your mama told you to be home at 10 and you sneak in at 11....It's something other else if you read the Bible and believe you're engaging in an act that can sentence you to eternal damnation - the stakes are a little higher here, ppl. We, in our mortal wisdom, allow ourselves to question the Bible and accept the parts we want. I know many young Christians who can tell me more about sex than the contents of Psalms, Samuel or Song of Solomon! That's a huge contradiction to me.
If you're ignorant, stay that way. It's worse if you know to do right and fail to do so.
I know it's a lotta full-out freaks that got ya'll spolied out here fellas. On the one hand, I feel like I need to know the tricks they using to take our men from us "prudes." But on the other hand, if I do something and my Spirit convicts me, that means it was something I should not have done.
It's not my place to tell you something is wrong; that's an individual decision. But for those of us who subscribe to certain beliefs, I'd like to know who gave us permission to bend the letter of the law?
The world tells us sexuality is a beautiful thing and a natural instinct (like hunger and thirst) and that sex is an integral part of a relationship.
But I still can't reconcile that with my guilty conscience.
Keep up with Devadonna....
Posts
Comments
2 comments:
Oh damn.
Sorry you feel guilty.
You definitely shouldn't do it then BUT you have to make better choices in the men you date as well.
Don't date the Hot Boy thinking he's gonna be oky with your stance on sex just 'cause he likes you.
Find a young man who feels the same. That way you can do what you feel comfortable doing and don't have to worry about any guilt.
DevaDonna: I agree with JJ. You have to pray for God to keep sustaining you and not lose your religion or your sanctity because it would be a wonderful to give our husband something that not every man in town can say you have given him. I love this post so much because you are standing up for what you believe in. That is beautiful to love God above all and obey his word. I have a new respect for you because as a young woman you are doing something not many people want to do: live right and stand for something. Much love and respect to you, Miss D.
Post a Comment